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Hey! Thanks for the post. I appreciate you stopping by the site. Well I guess I would have to say that the answer to your question is in your question. As you could imagine the point of this page is to have people ask me whatever questions they want. I wish I could say I had an answer for all of them but that is not the case. I do know that I personally have learned so much already, just from asking questions about things I didn't understand or wanted to know more about, so I guess that's why I do this. As you know, I am only 20 years old and I can honestly say that I haven't been through "It All". I would like to try to help anyone as much as I can, answer their questions to the best of my knowledge. So, after all that being said, I guess I can teach you only what I know as a 20 year old with limited life experience. Obviously it also depends on the question that you ask. Well, please feel free to write back. I look forward to trying to answer any other questions that you have, or directing you to someone who can better answer them. Maybe someone with a little more life experience:) Thanks again!

Hey thanks for the question. Well, it sounds like you kind of feel trapped in this situation and I can definetly understand why. Here is the thing though, if you are really serious about stopping, there are some tough things you are going to have to do. Number one you need to make a strong decision not to do drugs anymore, even though it will be difficult that is definetely the first step. Secondly you need to take a step back and really decide who your real friends are. Ask yourself this question who out of my "friends" really cares about me, and is trying to help me? I personally define a friend as someone who cares about me, and someone who looks out for my best interest. Now, this is where I might lose you, but please just hear me out. As I said before the first step is tough, but very important. You might be saying well Nick, thanks for the obvious advice I already said I wanted to stop! I am very glad to hear that you have made that decision, and here is why. If you are serious about stopping then you will. Its Easy as that, yes it is a process but you will stop if you want it bad enough no matter how bumpy the road to quitting is. At the same time though this brings us to step two, and believe me it is as equally important as the first step, if not more. I said that step two is really stepping back and asking yourself seriously who your friends are. Who is looking out for your best interest? Now again hold on here for moment, this is where it gets really tough. If you have made a strong decision not to do drugs then you will stop. However if you have "friends" who are peer pressuring you into doing those things that you dont want to do, it just makes it that much harder and you wont stop. Maybe you will for a while, but then you would fall right back into it all again, because those so called friends are not supporting you in your decision to quit. In fact they are the ones (according to you) that are offering it to you. The next tough question is are they really your friends at all? I personally dealt with people i my life who I thought at the time were my friends but they were always putting me in bad situations, or at least I thought. Come to find out I was putting myself in bad situations. See I had a choice all along, I always could have just said no! I am the one who chose to chill with that crowd no one forced me, it was my decision the whole time. It continued on that way until I made a serious decision to stop living the way I was and turn from it all. See it took me walking away from those so called "friends" to get out of a lot of the junk in my life. Believe me it wasn't easy and it took time but it was so worth it. Now God has blessed me with new friends. People who really care about me and look out for my best interest. You know, it was a process to walk away from those "friends" but I wouldnt go back to that life style for anything. It may surprise you to know that those people still talk to me now, and I have no problem "catching up" with them. I just make sure I spend my time with people who lift me up, and don't bring me down. Remember if you don't make the strong decision to stop doing drugs, then you will see no point in walking away from the people who are bringing you down. That is why both steps are very important. Thank you again for the question. I know my advice is easier said then done, but you can do it, it is possible! keep your head up and keep moving forward. Thanks again!

Nick

hey nick i have a question if i want to make it to the nba is it bad to have to big of a dream that u dnt think that will happen

Hey there! Not a question, but more of a response to the 2nd question. Hopefully the asker is still tuning in to this. I just finished posting my testimony (in What Your Story?), then read this question. Very similar. I went through the exact same thing. I too was "stuck" with people I thought were my friends. Although I wasn't surrounded with drugs necessarily, alcohol was everywhere and started controlling my life. It took guts but I ditched that life and all those "friends" in hopes of getting a fresh start. Now I'm happier than ever. I don't miss anything or anyone from that time in my life.

I don't want it to sound like I'm correcting you Nick, but I did catch one very important step that you missed for this person to be free of the drugs and negative influences: PRAY. This is in my opinion the first and foremost important thing anyone can do. So if you're still checking these asker#2, it's easier to pray pray pray, and just quit at once, leaving that environment behind, rather than to try to gradually fade yourself out of it. Otherwise, as Nick said, you'll find yourself slipping right back into it. It's a very tough situation I know, but you can do it! You're in my prayers. = )
Sorry for going out of format Nick ; )

Hey thank you for writing me:)Well let me please start by saying...My intentions here are not to make you feel bad, so I apologize in advance if anything I say offends you. I will try to help as much as I can k? Alright well I first have to tell you that I admire your honesty and your want to be free from this problem. Let me answer your first question with the upmost confidence: NO it is not bad to want "that". God himself created "it" and made "it" to be awesome. Here is the catch though, he created "it" for marriage. Now you did tell me you knew that so I am not trying to insult your intelligence, I am just re-itterating. However God calls us before marriage to be pure. You can see this in (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5,7)"It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life." I know it seems a little harsh but that is what God says in his word for us, to basically rise above what this world has to offer us. See we are not perfect and we never can be until the day the Lord comes back and all who believe will live with him for eternity. So that is why we need Jesus so badly. (John 14:6)- Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. We are saved by Jesus. God does not expect us to be perfect, but he defenitely wants us to try. Now as I said, "it" is not meant to be bad, but it can totally destroy us spiritually if we act on these urges before marriage. As you already shared you feel terrible and you are scared. A lot of Christians have struggled with this very same thing, for some it's harder than for other's, none the less it is a struggle and it is a difficult one. Now for some helpful tips... you said that the person you are with is willing to wait. That is awesome! If the person you are with is not pressuring you, then that is the best thing for you! Number 1. try not to put yourself in a situation to "mess up". Hang out with other Christian couples who are living a pure lifestyle to be envied that will help you;) Number 2. READ your BIBLE and PRAY! PRAY! PRAY! You said that you do that...AWESOME keep it up!!! Number 3. try to find a good Christian person who can help; hold you accountable for your actions. This one can be a little uncomfortable but will help drastically. As long as you are up front and honest just like you are doing now:) Well sorry I am going so long so let me "rap it up" - Basically here is all that I have said...God loves you A LOT and he wants to be as close to you as possible. He has called all of his followers to rise above what the world is pushing on us, and he is there to help. "It" is a great and special thing that is meant to be awesome when you are married to the person of your dreams. To answer your last question quickly, I don't think that God is mad at you and that is why it is so hard for you to stop!!! I do think that God is probably disapointed and really wants you to stop. I think that it is getting harder to stop because it might be when you ask God to forgive you, you forget to forgive yourself and move on to bigger and bettr things. I will be praying for you and I pray that God will help you through this time. I know you have heard this old saying "God helps those who help themeselves":) I truly believe that if you are following God he will help you through all of this. God bless you Sarah and hold fast; help is on the way ;)